Why I'm Rethinking the Phrase "Imposter Syndrome"
"Imposter Syndrome." You've heard it. I've heard it. That gut-wrenching feeling that you're a fraud, that your success is not deserved, and any minute now, everyone will realize you don't belong.
I recently stumbled upon a grainy Instagram reel of actress America Ferrera making a powerful statement that resonated with me: "I don't feel like an imposter." Her words had me reframing the phrase. "Imposter Syndrome" implies the individual is the problem - an ‘imposter”, pretending to be worthy of their place. But for many who experience this feeling, it's not about being a fraud; it's about feeling like they shouldn't be where they are. That the systems in place weren't built with them in mind.
When we label this "Imposter Syndrome," we're essentially gaslighting a perfectly normal reaction to systemic inequality and underrepresentation. Consider this: if you're constantly exposed to images and environments where people like you aren't present, aren't celebrated, or aren't in positions of power, wouldn't you sometimes question your right to be there?
Where Does Imposter Syndrome Come From?
For me, using the phrase "Imposter Syndrome" reinforces a sense of not belonging. I'm telling myself I don’t fit. It places the blame on my shoulders for internalizing years of subtle (or not-so-subtle) messaging that I shouldn't be ambitious or I shouldn't take a seat at the table.
So, let’s break it down a little further…..
Underrepresentation: When you don't often see people like yourself in positions of success, it can shake your confidence and make you question your right to be there.
Bias: There are systemic inequalities and biases that create barriers and challenges for many people, making it harder to feel a sense of belonging.
Bravery: Taking a step outside your comfort zone, acknowledging the challenges of being a trailblazer, and celebrating your courage in breaking through.
How can we no longer fall into the “Imposter Syndrome” trap?
Finding compassion: Instead of internalizing societal messages and feeling like failures, we can recognize the external factors that contribute to our feelings of doubt. This is the first step towards self-compassion and resilience.
Sparking Change: When we acknowledge the impact of underrepresentation and bias, we move closer to fixing the system.
Growth Mindset: Shifting the focus from "imposter" to "achiever" we can recognize and respect our journey of learning, growth, and perseverance. That is empowering.
I'm not saying the feeling of "not belonging" magically disappears overnight. What I am saying is that changing our language can change how we perceive ourselves. When we stop downplaying our experiences with "Imposter Syndrome" and acknowledge the very real, systemic factors at play, we take a powerful step towards living as our authentic selves.
Ditch the Imposter Syndrome
I consciously ditched the “Imposter Syndrome” label for myself when I started Her Scout. It became about stepping into my purpose and recognizing where the misplaced doubt was coming from. There have been many women role models in my life. Each of them living outside of society norms in one way or another. Her Scout is dedicated to supporting those women in their quest to build powerful teams and businesses.
